on gaydar

As Alyssa touched upon with Hartenstein, she doesn't exactly have the best "gaydar", and neither do I. I've liked so many gay men, I've lost count, and that's really rather unfortunate seeing as I have an immense fear of dating a gay man.

In tenth grade, I was an active posting member on a livejournal community for the game DDR. I started talking to one of the members, a guy that lived in Tarzana, and developed a huge crush on him (he was actually the one whose message I would save and re-save every week for months). It should have been a sign that he was gay when he was A GUY POSTING ON A DDR LIVEJOURNAL COMMUNITY, but I just couldn't see it. I couldn't even see it when I added him on myspace and his background image was an Abercrombie and Fitch advertisement. I just passed it off as being metrosexual. He was one of those Asian guys that wore green contacts and I still couldn't figure it out.

And then I met him. He called me one Saturday when he was in Santa Monica, and I hopped on the bus going towards the pier to play a round of DDR with him.
It hit me all at once. The green contacts, the Abercrombie ads, the popped collar polos he wore. He was one of the queerest boys I've ever seen.

I just checked his myspace. He finally came out, it seems.

THIS IS DEFINITELY WHY I'M SINGLE